Principles For Marriage (Part Two) | Matthew 19:5

[00:00:00] We'll truth, Daily This is Daily Truths with Dave Ahlman Marriage from the Word of God for each and every one of us who are married. So this is what it says in Matthew chapter 19, verse 5, therefore a man shall leave

[00:00:40] his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. I'm going to share with you four principles regarding marriage today. The first one is based on this text, establish independence. When a couple gets married, they separate themselves.

[00:00:59] They distinct themselves from their parents, especially for males. They say, I'm declaring my independence now from my mom and dad and my priority is upon my wife. This is why.

[00:01:13] A lot of times people say, a daughter is a daughter all your life but a son is a son until he finds a wife. That's based on Scripture that is so true. He's establishing his independence.

[00:01:26] He's establishing the fact that his wife is a priority in his life and so you prioritize your marriage when you do just that. You're establishing your independence. Secondly, date one another after marriage. It's really incredible to me.

[00:01:43] How many people enjoy each other while they're courting and they're dating and they go to movies and then go to concerts and they go out to eat and then it seems after they get married, all the fun is gone.

[00:01:55] I know of couples who date each other every week and they've been married 40, 50, sometimes 60 years because they realize to bring spice into that relationship is necessary. So continue to date one another, go out to eat, go to a movie and you have to kind

[00:02:15] of plan it, especially if you have kids. You got to plan ahead but I encourage couples to do that to continue to date one another after they're married. Thirdly, and I've already kind of talked about this, prioritize your marriage when kids come along.

[00:02:31] It's so easy to focus on the kids and go to their events and go to their concerts and go to their ball games and all that kind of stuff. And there's no time for a couple to prioritize their marriage and so I tell couples, make

[00:02:44] sure you spend quality and quantity time with one another while the kids are around. The divorce rate goes up significantly after kids leave the nest. Why is that? Because these two people haven't spent any time strengthening their marriage while their

[00:03:00] kids were around and so the kids go off to college and they pass each other like two ships in a night, it's like they don't know each other and they haven't spent the time strengthening their relationship during those years when the kids were around.

[00:03:14] So prioritize your marriage by making sure you spend quality and quantity time with one another alone apart from the kids and that kind of goes back to the dating thing. And finally, number four, forgive one another from the heart.

[00:03:28] We know that the Scripture's safe for give one another is God and Christ has forgiven you. No place is this more necessary than in the home, especially in marriage. So I've talked about this before but I want to reiterate it, what does it mean to forgive

[00:03:42] someone, especially your mate? Number one, it means you don't bring it up with them. If it's in the past, you don't use it for historical purposes, especially during an argument. You let it go. You don't bring it up with them ever again.

[00:03:56] Secondly, you don't bring it up with other people. You don't gossip about how your wife or husband hurt you badly and then talk about it behind their back to other folks. And finally, thirdly, you don't rehearse the herd in your mind.

[00:04:09] You don't bring it up in your mind over and over and over again because that's not healthy either. So we forgive one another from the heart because of Christ empowered by the Holy Spirit. So there you go.

[00:04:24] There is the four principles for marriage that I encourage you to live out if you're married, right? To establish a home whereby you assert your independence to date one another, to prioritize your marriage, especially when kids are around and if we give one another from the heart.

[00:04:42] I hope and pray this has been helpful for you today. And if you want to, okay, here's the thing. If you're married and you've been married for a long time and you kind of got all this stuff down, it's kind of what you do.

[00:04:54] Pass this on to a young couple. Especially if they haven't heard this kind of stuff from the pulpit or maybe in premarital counts like a lot of people don't go to premarital counseling anymore.

[00:05:07] You know, they just get married, they go to a justice to the peace or maybe they have a pastor but the pastor didn't emphasize pre-marital counseling. So send this on to them and hopefully this will help them and encourage them in their love

[00:05:19] for one another and their marriage itself. So have a great day in Christ. Jesus, I had us today's daily truth and have a wonderful day in the Lord Jesus. Thank you for tuning in to daily truths with Dave Almond.

[00:05:31] Pastor Dave Almond is the pastor of Mount Horturch in Boulder, Colorado. If you feel led, would you consider giving to this ministry your tax deductible donated donation helps us continue sharing the gospel with as many people as possible. Simply click the link in the description below.

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